I am so sad this morning hearing the story of Pheobe, a high school student in New England who was bullied through text messaging, online and at school and she killed herself. How can some of our children be so cruel that another life would be that worthless. That our children are not even aware of the consequences of their actions! Is one child so thoughtless, self centered and removed from reality that even if another child does take their life because of the crulity that it isn't their fault? They aren't responsible? Does one child have any remorse from the consequences of name calling and disrespect of another person?

And does one person feel so bad about themselves, is it a self esteem issue that even on the outside, the hottest, cutest, most popular person would feel the need to cut another human down to feel worthy themselves? What are we missing here?

And we could even take this into the world of adults. I am sure many of us know someone who carelessly talks about another, brings someone's worth down by the cut of their toungue. Who, in their adult world, gets into the negative world of their children...logging into their accounts, texting their children's friends, chatting with teens and taking out their anger and hurt in their world on to others...perhaps it causes them to feel better about themselves just for a minute.

I came across this writing by Iyanla Vanzant yesterday. As I am heading with some girlfriends to a conference for moms and daughters next weekend (myself having the 8-13 year olds to talk with) I was struck by not only the writing but the story this morning. Where is the disconnect? How can we, as moms, aunts, sisters, grandmas, friends...pick this up and encourage each other? Encourage our children? Encourage our children's friends? See the worth in ourselves so that we can see the worth in another!

When I, as a girlfriend, say I love you, it is not in a cheesy, careless off handed way. I say I love you because I am loved and therefore I am able to love. I am tolerated so I am able to tolerate. I am given grace and mercy so am able to pass that grace and mercy through me to others. I am worthy and you are worthy as well. ~Girlfriends, I love you. I appreciate you. -Rachel Noble

Dear One:
You are it! There is nothing in this world more important, more precious, more perfect than you. You are powerful!
Your parents, your friends, lovers and loved ones may not always be with you forever, but God is always there with you and for you. Others may not be able to answer your questions, soothe your pain, put a smile on your face or bring peace to your heart, but God can and will.
Since you will always be with you, because you are so very important to you, you must know how to take care of yourself, how to honor yourself and how to affirm yourself. My prayer for you is that you know how brilliant and special you are.
You have been loved from the very beginning of your existence. That love is within you. Allow the divine presence of the love within you to shape you, mold you and direct your life.
Give your best! Do your best! Be your best! And, if there is ever a day or time when you cannot figure out what to do, throw your hands in the air and dance! God's angels are your partners.

Taken from the book 'Don't Give It Away' by Iyanla Vanzant blog post. Click here and start typing, or drag in elements from the top bar.
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