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When you love someone you do not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love, of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in terror its ebb. We are afraid it will never return. We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity; when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity - in freedom.
-Anne Morrow Lindbergh

This can be said for any relationship, even girlfriends. Relationships take tolerance, compassion and freedom. When we think another person should be something, do something or act a certain way, we need to examine ourselves. Is there a need that is not being met in this relationship? Is this a person you should be spending time with in the first place? Does this bring up your own issues of control?

And this goes into all areas. Not everyone is going to have the same spiritual beliefs you have. Not everyone is going to eat, breathe and walk the same way you do. And not everyone is going to laugh or cry at everything you laugh and cry at. In fact, not one person in this whole world is going to meet all of your needs. Not a man and not one girlfriend. And not one age group.

We all need each other. We need to stay open to all people in our lives who are giving and taking, loving and fussing and, most importantly, those who are encouraging us and having a positive role in our life.

A loving relationship encourages personal growth and change. A loving relationship encourages freedom in that growth and change.
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A woman who is convinced that she deserves to accept only the best ~challenges herself to give the best. Then she is living phenomenally. -Maya Angelou

Love it, Girlfriends! Remember to take care of YOU! Remember to soak in a hot bath with a cold glass of ice water at your side. Remember to light the candles and put on some old soft rock, jazz -whatever makes your heart sing- and just breath. Remember to stretch. Sit up a little straighter and get the kinks out. Remember your facial moisturizer -okay, that is to make you smile-…

Whatever it is you are doing this season, just Celebrate! For some it is Christmas and for some it may be other traditions or meaningful times, but remember to Celebrate! Celebrate being the woman you are, the friends in your life and the joy that comes from living a life phenomenally!
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What I Love 11/22/2007
 
I love the smell of fresh mowed grass~ I love the smell of crisp Fall air before sunrise~ I love the stillness of early morning with the dew still on the grass and the quiet break of a dog bark or a car passing in the distance~ I love the sound of my son laughing~ I love my daughters independence and her self confidence~ I love Miller Park at dusk, sitting by myself, observing the various people milling around~ I love the cold air of Winter, the fireplace in my bedroom lit and Sade playing in the background. I love the positive energy in the spirits of my nearest and dearest friends~ I love my friends and family dropping by in the evening un-announced. I love quiet evenings at home, candles lit and soothing music with no-one dropping by. I love intense passion and quiet touch. I love my phone ringing and people staying in touch. I love days when my phone doesn’t ring at all. I love my soul connecting with different people~ I love knowing in my soul there is still one person…~ I love giving a massage~ I love receiving a massage. I love talking~ I love peace and quiet~ I love Dog The Bounty Hunter~ I love life~ to be continued…. ~Rachel Noble
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Driving home yesterday after work, I totaled my company vehicle. I have never in my life been in an accident and this one was so messed up! My turning left across three lanes of traffic on what had been a green arrow. Two of the lanes having traffic at a dead stand still while waiting on their light to turn green and the 3rd lane having been empty…until I entered the intersection and noticed a Dodge Durango traveling at a good clip. My thought was “he needs to slow down if he is going to turn right” and at the same time “Shit! He’s not slowing down to turn right!”

Yes, getting T-Boned was always in my car accident dreams. This man had to have been going 35MPH to have hit me with the force he did and spin my car around and put me up on the opposite side walk! Spitting glass out of my mouth and shaking it out of my hair I was just thinking “so this is what it is like.” And then a few expletives and a phone call to my boss.

Being home early today gave me a chance to turn on the Maury show. I wanted to be reminded of what real drama is. Not accidents in life itself that stop us from normal routine, but drama that is seemingly created to keep us stirred up. Drama that some people seem to draw into their life to have something -anything- to feel. Or keep from feeling.

All I ask for is reality. Honest, upfront, sometimes confusing and sometimes hurtful reality. I don’t need to make anything up and I am not going to get to avoid it! ~Rachel Noble
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